Learn-Now: Frontup4impact

Hi Hannah

The scary part of darkness is that it represents the unknown. You do not know what is in the darkness. So, you need to do the opposite. If you see the dark night, try and remember what is in that specific space when it is light. Always try and remember what is in that darkness, and it will make it less scary. Please try this and let me know.  

Hi Ruby

Thank you for asking. 

I love spending time with my sons. I have 4 boys, and it is great to do things with them.

I also like to play golf. And I love reading different types of books.

What do you like doing? 

Hi Hannah

Friendship is like a partnership. Both give and both receive. This means that sometimes you will do things that is not something you would prefer to do. But then other times your friend will do things that you prefer but not so much for her. 

The problem is when one of the two must always do what the other one wants. Then it becomes unbalanced, and that can bring frustration. As long as it is balanced, the friendship will grow.

Hope that answers your question. 

Great. Proud of you.

Hi Hannah

I am blessed to hear that you care for your sister, and that you are concerned for her. That is beautiful.

You can have a chat with your sister, and teach her about resilience. It will help her for the rest of her life. It is wonderful that you want to protect your sister, but this is also an opportunity to help her to grow as a person. Do a bit of research on resilience. Look at the links below. Please let me know when you have done some research, and then we can work out a plan together. 

Hi Caitlyn

Yes, you can determine which it is. And then you decide on your action based on that.  

Hi Fynn

I doubt that if someone doesn't want to be friends because of having a different opinion on food, whether that person has ever been a real friend. Friendships are a space where you can have different opinions and preferences, and still be good friends. It is a place where you can grow as a person and learn from each other. 

Don't let someone who is acting immature influence your life. In friendships like this, you will always be worried about sharing what you like and dislike, and you are going to end up not being yourself. 

Hi Ruby

It is wonderful that you are showing concern for someone else.

This is a real problem for this young lady. You can share with this girl what you see is going to happen, and help her to see that she needs to make other friends as well. Perhaps she hasn't realised it. Or perhaps she is just battling to make friends. If you know someone in her year that you think is nice, speak to that person to reach out to her. You can also give her some advise regarding friendships, being some sort of mentor to her. 

What do you think will be some of the advise you can give her?   

Hi Katelyn

Most likely your friend is going through a bad time in her own life. If this is just a temporary situation, keep forgiving her and be there for her. If it is not temporary, it is a sign that your friend is not mature enough to be your friend. 

In friendships like this, if it is not temporary, it is going to become very difficult for you to be yourself, because you will be scared the whole time that you will make your friend angry. This is not a healthy friendship model.

Make sure whether this is permanent of just temporary. When you have discovered which one it is, you can decide what to do. Let me know.  

Hi Fynn

True friendship is based on trust. You can see friendship as follows - two friends on the same ship. If you are on the same "ship", you need to be able to trust that person. I will not be able to be in a friendship with someone I cannot trust.   

The fact that this person swears at you, shows me that he does not have any respect for you as a person. It is not nice to "loose" friends, but this person does not sound the sort of friend you want to have.  

You must remember that you are your own best friend. You do not need people in your life that breaks you down. Associate with people that can help you grow as a person.